ADHD Relationship Reliability Tracker: Follow-Through, Chores & Communication

ADHD-related forgetfulness, time blindness, task-initiation difficulty, working-memory limitations, and inconsistent follow-through can create relationship problems even when the person genuinely intends to be dependable. Repeated missed commitments can eventually affect trust and place one partner in the role of reminding, supervising, or managing the other. This tracker helps convert promises into clearly defined commitments with dates, reminders, completion criteria, and proactive renegotiation so that reliability becomes measurable and supported by external systems rather than intention alone.

Commitments • Chores • Dates/Times • Reminders • Completion • Renegotiation • Partner Burden

ADHD Relationship Reliability & Follow-Through Tracker

ADHD-related forgetfulness, time blindness, task initiation difficulty, and working-memory limitations can affect trust even when the person genuinely intends to follow through. This tracker turns vague promises into observable commitments and measures whether the system—not just intention—is reliable.

Mark Zauss, BC-TMC, LMHC, LPC, CCMHC, NCC, ASDCS, CCTP, CCTP II, NATC, ADHD-CCSP, C-DBT, C-PD
Original psychoeducational and treatment-monitoring resource. Scores are descriptive and are not diagnostic.

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How to use: Rate each item based on your typical pattern or the past 1–2 weeks. Use repeated scores to track change over time rather than treating one score as a diagnosis.

Name / initials

Date

Assessment

Commitment Clarity

0 / 20

1. The task/commitment is clearly defined.

0 Never/None

1 Rare/Mild

2 Sometimes/Moderate

3 Often/Significant

4 Very Often/Strong

2. A date and time are attached when appropriate.

0 Never/None

1 Rare/Mild

2 Sometimes/Moderate

3 Often/Significant

4 Very Often/Strong

3. I understand what 'done' means.

0 Never/None

1 Rare/Mild

2 Sometimes/Moderate

3 Often/Significant

4 Very Often/Strong

4. I checked my capacity before agreeing.

0 Never/None

1 Rare/Mild

2 Sometimes/Moderate

3 Often/Significant

4 Very Often/Strong

5. The commitment is recorded externally.

0 Never/None

1 Rare/Mild

2 Sometimes/Moderate

3 Often/Significant

4 Very Often/Strong

Reminder & Planning

0 / 20

1. I entered the commitment into a calendar/task system.

0 Never/None

1 Rare/Mild

2 Sometimes/Moderate

3 Often/Significant

4 Very Often/Strong

2. I created reminders before the deadline.

0 Never/None

1 Rare/Mild

2 Sometimes/Moderate

3 Often/Significant

4 Very Often/Strong

3. I broke larger commitments into smaller steps.

0 Never/None

1 Rare/Mild

2 Sometimes/Moderate

3 Often/Significant

4 Very Often/Strong

4. I accounted for travel/setup/transition time.

0 Never/None

1 Rare/Mild

2 Sometimes/Moderate

3 Often/Significant

4 Very Often/Strong

5. I reviewed the commitment before it became urgent.

0 Never/None

1 Rare/Mild

2 Sometimes/Moderate

3 Often/Significant

4 Very Often/Strong

Follow-Through

0 / 20

1. I started with enough time to finish.

0 Never/None

1 Rare/Mild

2 Sometimes/Moderate

3 Often/Significant

4 Very Often/Strong

2. I completed the commitment as agreed.

0 Never/None

1 Rare/Mild

2 Sometimes/Moderate

3 Often/Significant

4 Very Often/Strong

3. I did not rely on my partner to remind me.

0 Never/None

1 Rare/Mild

2 Sometimes/Moderate

3 Often/Significant

4 Very Often/Strong

4. I communicated progress when appropriate.

0 Never/None

1 Rare/Mild

2 Sometimes/Moderate

3 Often/Significant

4 Very Often/Strong

5. I closed the loop after completion.

0 Never/None

1 Rare/Mild

2 Sometimes/Moderate

3 Often/Significant

4 Very Often/Strong

Proactive Renegotiation

0 / 20

1. I communicated early if I could not complete the task.

0 Never/None

1 Rare/Mild

2 Sometimes/Moderate

3 Often/Significant

4 Very Often/Strong

2. I proposed a realistic new time rather than disappearing.

0 Never/None

1 Rare/Mild

2 Sometimes/Moderate

3 Often/Significant

4 Very Often/Strong

3. I did not wait until my partner asked.

0 Never/None

1 Rare/Mild

2 Sometimes/Moderate

3 Often/Significant

4 Very Often/Strong

4. I avoided making a new promise I could not keep.

0 Never/None

1 Rare/Mild

2 Sometimes/Moderate

3 Often/Significant

4 Very Often/Strong

5. I followed through on the revised plan.

0 Never/None

1 Rare/Mild

2 Sometimes/Moderate

3 Often/Significant

4 Very Often/Strong

Relationship Impact

0 / 20

1. My partner did not have to manage or supervise me.

0 Never/None

1 Rare/Mild

2 Sometimes/Moderate

3 Often/Significant

4 Very Often/Strong

2. My reliability reduced stress rather than adding to it.

0 Never/None

1 Rare/Mild

2 Sometimes/Moderate

3 Often/Significant

4 Very Often/Strong

3. I acknowledged impact when I missed something.

0 Never/None

1 Rare/Mild

2 Sometimes/Moderate

3 Often/Significant

4 Very Often/Strong

4. I repaired rather than becoming defensive.

0 Never/None

1 Rare/Mild

2 Sometimes/Moderate

3 Often/Significant

4 Very Often/Strong

5. My partner could reasonably depend on the plan.

0 Never/None

1 Rare/Mild

2 Sometimes/Moderate

3 Often/Significant

4 Very Often/Strong

Commitment Tracker

Commitment	Date/Time	Reminder/System	Completed?	Partner reminded?	Renegotiated early?	Notes

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Clinical disclaimer: This worksheet is educational and intended to support treatment planning and self-monitoring. It does not diagnose ADHD, trauma, dissociation, attachment disorders, anxiety disorders, relationship disorders, or any other condition. Medication-related decisions must be made with the prescribing clinician.

Mark Zauss, BC-TMC, LMHC, LPC, CCMHC, NCC, ASDCS, CCTP, CCTP II, NATC, ADHD-CCSP, C-DBT, C-PD
Use results in context with clinical history, neurodevelopmental factors, trauma, sleep, mood, anxiety, relationships, medical conditions, and the client's own goals.

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